• Coach Bola


Updated: Jan 1

The more wise you are at choosing relationships the less crying you will do

A relationship is defined as how two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected.

A relationship is a way we interact with one another. However, when ones talk about relationships many of us think on terms of intermate relationship. I am not downplaying the importance of intimate relationships, but many of us fail to realize that our intimate relationships are indications of the other types of relationships we have fostered.

The above definition of relationship can be connections of concepts, objects, or people. According to Wikipedia Concepts are defined as abstract ideas or general notions that occur in the mind, in speech, or in thought.

Our concepts can be our belief systems, our value systems, or even our how we reason. Our belief system is a set of principles or tenets which together form the basis of a religion, philosophy, or moral code. Our value system is defined person’s standards and self-discipline set, based on the common sense and wisdom of knowing what the proper moral rules and discipline are, and the amount of willingness to see themselves and others abide by them. Way of reasoning means the action of thinking about something in a logical, sensible way.

Objects a definition is a material thing that can be seen and touched. An object can be an animal, money, or career/business, or even our cars or clothes.

People are defined as the men, women, and children of a particular nation, community, or ethnic group. It can have a vase range from a parent, a spouse, a boss, or a barber.

As noted, relationships are not just with people, but concepts and objects fall into the category. There are two fundamentals to how we operate in relationships. The first is your creator, (mine is GOD). How we depict the creator in our every waking moment, What/Who is your source in life?

What happens to us afterlife? Is there a relationship to a higher being? What are the benefits and what are the downfalls of the creator? The other fundamental is Self. Who are you? What is your purpose? What is your relationship with yourself? It is based on truth or are you wearing a mask to cover up your insecurities, weakness, and shortcomings. These two fundamentals are the springboard to how to communicate and deal with the other relationships that formed through our lifetime.

If you find you constantly are dealing in negativity when it comes to relationships it is time for evaluation and investigation into the base of the two fundamental relationships: Creator and Self.

Changing negative output of relationships by reviewing your belief, value, and reasoning systems :

Inner Healing – Help identify the negative or twisted belief that was wrongly adopted

Energy Cleansing – Trapped negative emotions have an impact on our systems, be it physical, mental, or spiritual. Don’t give way to sickness because you have these poor, bad emotions that cause your actions to be unhealthy.

Drive Purpose with Clarity – We all have a purpose normally birthed out of our passion.

Find our worth in our creator (for me it is GOD) and self, allow us to put all other relationships in perspective.

We don’t need to be making unreasonable demands, to suit our egos.

What’s your best next step?

If you are needing help in getting unstuck from a life that needs change and you are willing to do the work?

Coach Bola is available to coach you to Unmasking the Identity, Transforming Relationships, and Aligning to a Kingdom Mindset to bring Awareness to your Emotional, Mental, Spiritual climate so that you can be your BEST SELF to yourself, your family, work environment, and community.

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